Like any birth, it was anticipated, but as always, the timing was unknown. You never know that moment when labor will begin. As is usually the case, this one happened in the middle of the night.
He’s been stewing for weeks. Brewing, thinking, pondering, brooding. Admittedly, he has a lot more on his mind than stories, but I knew that was, in many ways, his real conundrum. You have no idea what it’s like to watch a creative man go through his own version of pregnancy. It’s similar emotionally to what it’s like for women. He was antsy, he was uncomfortable, he slept badly, he was frustrated. My husband had finished Ghost Hunters weeks before. He paced out the posting of the chapters to occur long after he’d actually finished the story. I had the privilege of reading the chapters when they were finished, mostly as a spell-check of sorts, but I had nothing to do with the actual story. And when that “baby” was done, he was ready for another. He went through old stories he’d started but hadn’t finished, looking for inspiration; but nothing really came. False labor if you will. He really liked the characters from Ghost Hunters and wanted to continue with them, but wasn’t sure if he could summon anything interesting for them to encounter. I’d watch him sit in his thinking chair, tap his fingers on the keyboard, and … nothing. Ladies, you know that feeling in the last few days of pregnancy when you just sit there and pray, “Hurry UP!”? That’s how he was.
Last night after we finally got the little one down around 3am, we smoked our cigarettes and then went to bed. I opened my book, and my Love opened his, but he started talking – mostly the thinking out loud kind of talk that didn’t really require a response from me. All of a sudden he said, “Hey! What if …” and he trailed off into silence.
Now, I’ve lived with this man a long time, and I have learned to keep quiet when he says that. In fact, I try to keep as still as possible, afraid that any movement or sound on my part might distract him from the path of his thoughts. I know his wheels are turning, working out all the possible outcomes, their probabilities and pitfalls, and that while his mouth might be silent, there’s a cacophony going on in his head. To me, it’s genius at work, and I dare not interrupt.
Then the words started tumbling out of him. Ah, it’s such a joy to see! “What if this … and then that … and of course this would have to happen … and then they could ….” And I, like any midwife, did my best to encourage those thoughts – my own version of, “Relax! Breathe! Push!” Coaching, encouraging.
An idea was born! Right away he jumped up, “Come with me while I write this down!” he cried. He sat at his computer and typed furiously, as fast as he could, trying to get the words preserved before they floated away into the mists of his imagination. This time, unlike Ghost Hunters, I got to add my 2¢ worth to the story being born. I can’t tell you how exciting it to feel like part of the process. He has so many great ideas for Witch Hunt! This one is going to be really exciting I believe, yet different in several ways than Ghost Hunters. He’s plotting and planning, making his notes and outlines, taking a much more deliberate tack this time. I think the effort will pay major dividends.
Many years ago I used to fancy myself a writer of sorts, with my little short stories and poems. If I still had any of those scribblings, you could see just how silly I was. And I used to wonder what it was like for great writers when an idea struck them. Now, I know. It’s almost visible, that spark, when inspiration strikes like lightning out of a cloudless sky. My husband will sit so still, waiting, the energy of desire emanating from him in waves. Then BAM, he’s a flurry of activity, typing away furiously, so focused on the words flowing out of his brain through his fingertips that I do believe the place could catch fire and he probably wouldn’t notice. It is truly a beauty to behold. And I am privileged, and honored, to be a witness.
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