You know, I spent the first few decades of my life not having a single sinus problem. Then all of a sudden, a couple of years ago, my sinuses started acting like Little Miss Muffet every time there was a cloud in the sky. I don’t know what the problem is, but frankly, I’m done now. I’m tired of waking up with the same headache I went to bed with, and I’m tired of spontaneous breathing problems that have a mind of their own. Noses are for breathing, dammit, now stop arguing with me and go back to doing what you do best.
Anyway, I did manage to catch “the Catch” and the “After the Catch” shows I love so much. It’s funny the things that pop into my head when I listen to the captains and crews sitting around shootin’ the breeze. For instance, last night one of the guys mentioned something about how it’s hard when fishermen get married because their wives want them to take jobs that are close to home, but the man misses being a fisherman. That statement kind of swirled around in my head for a while and I realized that’s one of the things I probably dislike most about being a woman – the assumption that all I want to do is “change my man.” Not that it’s an issue for me now, but it has been in the past when I was dating. My husband knows I wouldn’t want to change him even if I could. Trying to convince dates of that was a pain in the butt, because men are so used to women trying to change them, now it’s hard for them to believe a woman who says she doesn’t.
This is my personal opinion but if I could only give out one single piece of marriage advice (and lucky you I’m not limited to a single piece of advice because I have a blog, neener!) it would be to tell women, “YOU WILL NOT CHANGE HIM.” I’ve known women who think this is possible, I’ve seen women leave comments on articles and blogs that they’re going to change their mates, I’ve known single women who were already planning on how they’d change any potential future husband – and they hadn’t even met him yet! How stupid is that?! If you cannot love and accept him as he is, then don’t marry him, you’ll only end up making both of you miserable. It’s not worth it. And if you bring children into such a union, they’ll only see that you think men are “not good enough.” You’ll only send the message to your husband that he’s “not good enough.” Yeah, there’s a cure for marital bliss.
All right guys, sound off.
(Don’t worry ladies, your turn tomorrow!)